If you know me, or if you found your way here from one of my other blogs, it won’t come as much of a surprise to you that I love sex. And intimacy. And human relationships in their various forms. In that light, it shouldn’t come as too much of a surprise when I say that people treating sex as something dirty, inherently bad or sinful is like red rag bollocks to me.
In its purest form, sex is about pleasure, joy and love. It really is the simplest and most natural thing, yet some people go out of their way to make it as complicated and taboo as possible. Don’t listen to them. Come here, grab yourself a hot beverage and let auntie Linn tell you why you should fuck more.
(Please note, everything I am about to say – in fact, everything I ever say on this platform – is based on the assumption that you want to have sex, can have sex and that your attitude towards people having sex is positive. If one or more of those statements do not apply to you, then you are not the person I am talking to right now.)
First of all, you don’t need to buy a bull to plow the field. Casual sex can be a wonderful thing too. Plus, what the sex haters don’t tell you is that if you’re a woman and you’re denying yourself sex because of some medieval ideas about female sexuality, you’re being double fucked by religious nonsense and Life itself. And them buggers won’t even let you come. But I will. And I will encourage you to keep coming as often as you like and/or can.
You see, what infuriates me about this idea that women shouldn’t be having sex, is that it robs them of something that could make them feel happier and more at ease with their own bodies. And, as if that isn’t bad enough, not having sex can lead to a lot of health-related issues and even cut your life shorter. Yes, you did read that right. Sex can help you live longer.
In this place, the only moral we preach is consent. If you like it and it’s legal and consenting I’m happy for you. So, let’s forget about taboos and inhibitions and what women are “supposed” to do. Take a look at some of the reasons you should be having more sex:
If you’re in pain, you should probably have sex. It’s a natural pain relief that can help you with anything from chronic pain relief to headaches and labour pains.
I know the idea of the sexy woman has made most of us believe that we can only have sex under certain conditions. Codswallop! Orgasms don’t care about lace or heels or makeup. They don’t even care whether you’re tired or in pain. As long as the right bits are stimulated in the right ways they will come.
The reason why it works is a combination of factors, but one of the more obvious ones is the release of so-called feel-good chemicals, like endorphins and oxytocin.
Yep, you read that right. Sex can actually boost your immune system. Exactly how this works is a bit too complicated for this particular post – suffice it to say that it boils down to a key antibody that is involved in fending off foreign invaders.
If your immune system, like mine, could do with a boost and a couple of helping hands, anti-oxidant foods and supplements are all well and good. But just between you and me, you want to throw a generous dose of sex in there too.
Did you know that oxytocin, the hormone that promotes bonding between mums and babies, and tightens the bond between lovers, also functions as an effective sleeping potion?
Sex releases oxytocin into your body where the hormone works to counter cortisol, the primary stress hormone. The oxytocin relaxes you and helps you fall asleep. It also improves the quality of your sleep. So you know this too tired thing? Yeah, that actually works against you. If you really want a good night’s sleep, have an orgasmic nightcap first. You can thank me later.
It’s no secret that we can tell by your bright eyes and bushy tail if you’ve been getting any. Sex does, indeed, make your skin glow, but even if it feels like magic there’s a rather simple explanation for this phenomenon.
Sex increases the blood flow through your body in the same way it does when you blush. But that’s not all. It also tickles the collagen-producing parts to work harder. Collagen is what we call a key structural protein, or protein molecules made up of amino acids to be precise.
You’ll find collagen added to skin cream and supplements, and you can buy collagen peptides to add your food. It helps keep your skin supple and promotes joint health.
So, you know how sex can make it feel like your heart is trying to break through your rib cage? Yeah, that can happen, but over time, regular sex can actually help lower your systolic blood pressure. You know, the higher of the two numbers we measure and the one we have the most problems keeping in check.
Ideally, your blood pressure, the force that is exerted on your blood vessel walls as your heart pumps the blood around your body, should stay between 90/60mmHg and 120/80mmHg.
Yep, this is about the feelgood hormones again. Serotonin is like the postman who delivers the letters to the nerve cells in your brain and body. It’s a chemical that is involved in regulating a number of bodily functions, including your mood, sleep, and sexual desire.
High levels of serotonin can help combat, and prevent, depression. That’s why it’s also referred to as a mood stabiliser. It controls your sense of wellbeing and happiness. And the more sex you have, the more serotonin you release into your system.
Now, remember what I said in the beginning of this post about not listening to people telling you sex is bad and evil or whatever? Good. I want you to apply that level of skepticism to what I just told you too. The fact that someone said or wrote something doesn’t necessarily make it true.
Here’s what I do know for a fact:
All of the health benefits I’ve listed above are taken from credible sources, like journals presenting research results. However, here’s the crux – not all research is the same, and not all findings as valid as others. To know how reliable a statement is you have to look at what kind of study it was, how many people were included in the group(s) they studied, whether it has been peer reviewed etc. That’s not what this blog is about, but I do encourage you to go out and check for yourself.
Please, don’t use my words as an excuse not to take medication or seek professional help. The purpose of my blog is to talk about all aspects of sex in a way that is as positive and inclusive as possible. I am a coach, not a health professional, and all I want is for you to be able to accept your body and enjoy sex. With or without company.
Here’s another thing I know to be true:
All the health benefits mentioned above can also be achieved through exercise. And to an even higher degree, unless you fuck like the Duracell bunny. But hear me out… Even if sex is a low-impact form of exercise that doesn’t burn as many calories, or release the same levels of happy hormones, as high-impact exercise – it’s a helluva lot more fun than any other sweat-inducing activity I’ve ever tried.
Sex also comes with the added bonus that you can cuddle when you’re done. You can’t get away with cuddling the equipment after a particularly rough session at the gym. At least not without attracting a lot of unpleasant attention. Trust me.
So, all things considered I’m going to say it again – have more sex, woman. It’s good for you!
Love & Lust,
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Linn Lindström is a Swedish sex kitten whose curiosity once led her to attend a swingers’ party in London. Soon after, she found herself in charge of a number of chat forums, discussion groups and websites dedicated to the promotion of a safe playground for sociable sex larpers.
A diva of delight, Linn can exude a sex appeal that is off the charts. Like Freya, the goddess of love and beauty, she loves to indulge in physical sensations and anything that involves more than two senses. She is a typical Libra and may come across as cool, calm, or even aloof, but once relaxed she is incredibly playful, passionate and romantic. Though she’d never admit the latter!
Linn loves storytelling, music, Life, crafting and chocolate, and she is particularly partial to mental fireworks. She needs a lover who can make her think less and feel more, but only the brave need apply.