Hi Linn, I’m young and haven’t got a great deal of sexual experience… well the type you see in porn etc… My problem is that I don’t go out looking for sex or sexual encounters. When I find someone I’m attracted to I always build up a intellectual connection, and when I want to move things further it feels wrong. I feel as though I’ve used the ‘friendship’ I built up through conversation to take advantage. Is feeling guilty usual?? //B
Hey B, I used to have the same “problem” when I was your age. I told myself I valued the friendship too much to want to risk it. That sounds so stupid to me now, as it almost suggests you can’t be friends if you like to fuck each other.
I’ve reached a stage, or age perhaps, where I can’t really see the point in having sex with someone I don’t think of as a friend. At the very least, it would have to be someone I feel close to in a friendly kinda way. It makes me feel more relaxed and, to me, that’s the key to great sex.
Maybe, if you give it time, you will come to the same conclusion. Sex needn’t be complicated and a threat to the friendship. It can be wonderfully uncomplicated and make friendships better and stronger. As long as you don’t overthink and over-complicate things that are really quite simple.
As for “taking advantage” you have to communicate and learn to read the signals. My guess is that if you play your cards right and listen to your auntie Linn, you’ll find quite a few friends who would love to be taken advantage of… 😉
Love & Lust
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Linn Lindström is a Swedish sex kitten whose curiosity once led her to attend a swingers’ party in London. Soon after, she found herself in charge of a number of chat forums, discussion groups and websites dedicated to the promotion of a safe playground for sociable sex larpers.
A diva of delight, Linn can exude a sex appeal that is off the charts. Like Freya, the goddess of love and beauty, she loves to indulge in physical sensations and anything that involves more than two senses. She is a typical Libra and may come across as cool, calm, or even aloof, but once relaxed she is incredibly playful, passionate and romantic. Though she’d never admit the latter!
Linn loves storytelling, music, Life, crafting and chocolate, and she is particularly partial to mental fireworks. She needs a lover who can make her think less and feel more, but only the brave need apply.